Overcoming the Roadblock of Worry is an important step in living the life of your dreams.
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My mother is the biggest worrier on the planet. That might be an exaggeration but nevertheless, she worries about everything. Her worry turns her words into negativity and sometimes it is a real downer.
For example, last week when I was in the hospital with heart issues my mother all but had me buried. She said that I needed to be careful driving because if I passed out I could kill someone. She began to speculate the many things that could be wrong with me to include diabetes, heart disease, and even a stroke.
Next, my mother talked about all the issues that she has had with her heart.
The high blood pressure that mysteriously corrected itself. The medication that she had been on for years was of great importance to her. She talked about the many drugs that I might need to take including antidepressants.
For the record, I’m against conventional pharmaceuticals until all other means of natural healing have been exhausted.
When she finished telling me all the horrible things that could be going wrong with me, she proceeded to list the family members who had the same issue. Apparently, my dad and his sister have low blood pressure that also causes them to black out. I’ve never witnessed this or even heard about it before this conversation. Furthermore, I have yet to pass out.
Once my worrying mother was done telling me all about the relatives who have diabetes, obesity, high blood pressure, various surgeries and hospitalizations, skin cancer, Rheumatoid Arthritis, and hangnails, she finally asked how I was feeling.
“What is your doctor saying?”
“I guess you need more tests.”
“If they prescribe medicine you need to take it!”
A lecture ensued.
Finally, when I got a word in, I told my mother not to worry about me that I would be fine. I did not have a stroke, a heart attack, or a seizure. I informed her that I was on a heart monitor and IV fluids. And other than a sinus infection, the tests were all normal.
“Oh, well, now what then?”
You see, my mother worries about everything but I take a different stand.
How do I overcome the roadblock of worry?
- I refuse to worry about something until there is something to worry about. Was I scared, lying in the in ER feeling like I was having a heart attack? Yes, absolutely! My children were right beside me and I was thinking about how they had just lost their dad and there was no way they could lose me too.
- I pray to the creator and maker of Heaven and Earth. My God who knew me before I was formed in my mother’s womb. Literally, my tears fall as I cry out with my voice. “God help me.”
- I overcome the roadblock of worry with the truth. The truth is, I wasn’t dying. The doctors and nurses that came to my rescue were right there to help. They did their job and ruled out everything that I had to worry about.
- An action is the next step I take to overcome the roadblock of worry. Along with my doctor, I formulate a plan of action and I take those steps. This week is a Carotid Artery ultrasound, next week I meet with my primary care doctor, and the following week I have an ultrasound on my heart. Finally, with all the test results I will see a cardiologist and formulate a new plan.
Overcoming the roadblock of worry is not an easy thing to do. Don’t get me wrong, it has not always been easy and yes, if you ask my children, I worry more than I should. When it comes to them, I worry because I’m a mother (or smother if you prefer) I’m Beverly Goldberg if you had to put a character to my style of parenting.
There are plenty of things to worry about other than health and they include:
- Getting old
- And so much more…
Here are a just few practical ways that may help you to cope with worry.
Build strong relationships with two or three people who will help, pray, and remind you of the truth. Close friendships with someone you can trust to walk you through your action steps can calm a worrisome heart.
Allow yourself to fall into the arms of your spouse. A hug is sometimes all that it takes to calm an anxious heart. The soft whisper of “I love you” or “It’s all going to be ok” can be amazing.
Positive self-talk is a tool that can help in a variety of situations. Tell yourself that you are strong and you got this. “You’re braver than you believe and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” Christopher Robin to Pooh in Pooh’s Grand Adventure, the Search for Christopher Robin.
With a few simple tools in your arsenal, you can overcome the roadblock of worry and get on with living the life you’ve always dreamed of. This is my plan as I walk out the action steps that have been laid before me. I refuse to worry until the doctors tell me that I have something to worry about.
I’d like to know how others cope with overcoming the roadblock of worry. Drop me a line and tell me how you overcome the roadblock of worry.